Thanks, But No Thanks...Teaching our Children How to Use Polite Language over this Holiday Season
Authored By: Chani Selengut, M.S., CCC-SLP
Speech Therapist at The Village Therapy Place
In honor of Thanksgiving, let’s talk about table manners with or without guests present😊
We all want our children to say effortlessly and appropriately, “Please” and “Thank You”.
And the challenge is even greater with our children who have speech delays.
What many parents don’t realize is that “please” and “thank you” are abstract concepts. Toddlers (especially those with a speech and language delay) need to be developmentally ready to learn abstract concepts.
Something else to consider is that “please” and “thank you” won’t help a child use specific language to communicate what he/she wants. The primary goals with a child who has speech delays are to help him or her communicate efficiently and to reduce frustration. “Please” and “thank you” don’t meet either of these goals.
You may be saying to yourself, “OK, so I shouldn't teach my child good manners???”
The truth is, that the best way you can teach good manners is by modeling the use of good manners.
Eventually when your child is ready, he/she will say “please” and “thank you” on his/her own because of positive modeling.
Instead of focusing on teaching an abstract concept that will allow your child to communicate using vague language, focus on making your child an effective communicator.
For further reading on “The Please and Thank You Debate” read the following:
https://www.veipd.org/earlyintervention/2014/12/02/the-please-and-thank-you-debate/
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